The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines accountability as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions.” In my research, I found a very strong link between trust and accountability. Like any trust relationship, this one, too, is reciprocal. If you behave in an accountable way, I will trust you, I will give you autonomy because I trust you not to abuse it, and you will then trust me, and be even more accountable. Accountability cuts across many relationships, from personal to professional. This is the first of two episodes in which, through stories and my research and trust model, I will discuss several aspects of accountability, the link between accountability and trust, and give you 10 ways to be more accountable and trusted. This is the first in a two-part episode.
It’s that time of the year, and we set our new year resolutions. But, before you set your new year resolutions, let me ask you one question: did YOU achieve LAST year’s resolution? I found a statistic that showed that 35% of people kept ALL their 2020 resolutions. That’s not bad! 49% kept some, and 16% kept none. So, what’s the secret to achieving your new year's resolutions? In this episode, I will focus on resolutions that intend to form new habits. The framework I will use is the same that I used in The Book of TRUST and I use in my Trust Habits Workshops to help form habits that build your trustworthiness. I also used it in the book Worst Diet Ever to help lose weight and live healthy (and that’s how I lost 32 pounds myself…). In this episode I will show you how to form habits, successfully, so that you will achieve your 2022 resolutions.
A very famous speaker was procrastinating until the last minute on writing his speech. In fact, he went on stage without the entire speech. He was a procrastinator. Then, on stage, he added four more words to it. He decided to start with the words: "I have a dream..."
We typically look at procrastination in a negative context. But, is it all bad? In this episode, I will first show both the negative and positive aspects of procrastination. I will also give you some advice as to how to decide whether to procrastinate or not.
But the most important part is that I will show you how to determine whether you should trust a procrastinator or not and whether you should be trusted based on your procrastination profile. That decision will be based on the Personality Compatibility component of trustworthiness, and will be explained through the lens of the first four laws of trust, namely that trust is relative.
After covering the entire Trust Habits process, this final episode of the 3rd season will answer the question, "what's next?" What should you do once you are more trusted in a specific relationship in a specific context? How do you extend this new habit? This episode will propose how to increase your trustworthiness in the eyes of the same person further, how to be trusted in the same relationship doing more things, and how to be trusted by other people, as well.
Finally, this episode will also reflect on the first three seasons of this podcast, and give you a glance of what's coming in the 4th season and beyond.
The first 6 steps of the process helped you identify a relationship, what you are doing that's holding you back from being more trusted in that relationship, identify a new habit that will help you be more trusted, and helped you refine and clarify that habit, making it stick, and appoint an accountability partner that will help you achieve your goal. You could have done all of that without leaving your chair, and you could have completed it in hours or days. But now, it's time to form the habit. You have a plan, and you must execute it. This episode describes the 7th step of the Trust Habits process, the step you do by yourself. The episode will answer the main question: how long would it take for it to become a habit? There are two reasons why it will take months (and not days or weeks). The episode will also propose what to do if you miss practicing the habit.
In a study, the Association for Training and Development found that by yourself, the probability of achieving a goal you have set for yourself will not exceed 50%. There is one more method we will deploy to help you build the new habit that will make you more trusted: using an accountability partner. In this episode, we will explain why an accountability partner is important, help you decide who would be a good accountability partner for you, and how to effectively work with the accountability partner.
It's not enough that you identified the new habit that must replace an old bad habit that was holding you back from being more trusted. The Goldilocks rule states that if it is too easy or too hard, you will not be motivated enough to form this new habit. So, you chose a habit that is right there on the line of being too hard. The previous episode gave you five methods to make it a little easier, or make it "stick." But, often the intrinsic motivation (being more trusted) is simply not enough to overcome the effort. This episode covers the sixth method to make it stick: extrinsic motivation. What is extrinsic motivation? How does it work? When could you stop? Answers to all these questions are in this episode of The TRUST Show.
The last three episodes covered the first four steps in developing a habit that will help you become more trusted. You identified a specific relationship (Step 1), one bad habit you have that's holding you back from being more trusted (Step 2), and one good new habit that will contradict your bad habit (Step 3). In Step 4, you clarified it further and made it a S.M.A.R.T. habit (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound). This episode will help you make this new habit stick, make it easier to form into something that you do automatically. This episode will cover the first 5 (of 6) methods to achieve that: Filling the void, Friction Control, Habit Conditioning, Technical Support, and Logging.
This is the third episode in which I’m taking you through the 7 step process to be more trusted. In the previous episodes, you went through step 1 and identified one relationship you want to be more trusted at, and through step 2, where you identified one bad thing you are doing in that relationship that is holding you back from being more trusted.
In this episode, we will go through step 3, and identify one good thing you will do to counteract that bad thing, and also turn is into a SMART action plan.
This is the second episode in which I’m taking you through the 7 step process to be more trusted. In the previous episode, you went through step 1 and identified one relationship you want to be more trusted at. In this episode, you will go through step 2, and identify one bad thing you are doing in that relationship that is holding you back from being more trusted.
